http://www.BreakupBrad.com — The Number One Secret to Getting Your Ex Back
Hi guys, welcome to another video where I’ll be teaching you how to get back together with your ex. I’m Brad Browning, a relationship coach and best-selling author of The Ex Factor Guide. For more advice on reversing your breakup and starting over with your ex, visit my website at www.BreakupBrad.com.
In this video, I’m going to tell you the single most important secret to winning back your ex. If you’re not aware of the important tips I’m going to reveal in the next few minutes, then your chances of saving your relationship will be next to nil. I know this because I’ve watched many of my clients ignore this advice and, predictably, throw away any shot at a second chance with their ex. Don’t do that… just trust that the techniques I’m going to share in this video WILL work, and WILL give you the best possible chance of getting back together.
So, what’s the #1 secret to getting your ex back? What is it that separates those who fail and those who actually do build a new, healthier relationship with their ex?
The secret to winning your ex back is to fundamentally change the way your ex thinks about you and your relationship. To re-wire their brain so that when he or she thinks about you, they think about your positive qualities, how much fun you are, how many great memories you’ve shared, and how great life is when you’re by their side.
This is crucial because right now, if you’ve been dumped or if your ex isn’t interested in giving the relationship another shot, then he or she almost certainly thinks of you in a negative light. Even if your breakup was totally amicable and he or she has told you they still love you, the reality is that your ex just doesn’t think of you as someone they want to be with. If your breakup was ugly or you’ve made a lot of mistakes since the breakup, it’s more likely that he or she sees you as “that desperate loser ex”.
If you want him or her to take you back, then you need to change that… you need to make sure that they think about you in the same way they did when your relationship began, when things were amazing and you were madly in love. If your ex were to feel that way about you again — if thinking about you brought a smile to their face and sent a surge of attraction through their body — then he or she wouldn’t even think twice about getting back together!
So, really, the key to winning back your ex is to re-wire their subconscious perception of you. You want them to feel like they NEED you in their life, and stimulate the kind of strong emotions and feelings of attraction that will overpower logic or reasoning. If you do this properly, then all the reasons your ex has given you for the breakup will become meaningless or be forgotten completely. We humans are emotional creatures and we’re slaves to our sexual and emotional desires… so if you can stimulate those feelings in the back of your ex’s mind, then he or she will come crawling back to you asking for another chance.
I know what you’re thinking at this point… you’re thinking, “Brad, what’s with all this psychobabble? How does it actually help me get my ex back?”
That’s a fair question, to be honest… but if you think about it, what most people in your situation do is actually the complete opposite of what I just described. Most people — and I can’t blame them, because it seems perfectly logical — try to convince their ex to take them back. They beg, plead, or just generally reach out to their ex and attempt to do things that they think will change their ex’s mind about the breakup.
Unfortunately, this never works. In fact, most of the time, any attempts to talk with your ex after the breakup will harm your chances and drive him or her even further away. Begging, pleading, apologizing, bribing… It is absolutely awful because all it does is re-enforce that image in the back of your ex’s mind – the one that makes them think of you in a negative light, as someone whom they wouldn’t be their romantic partner and isn’t what they want in a boyfriend or girlfriend.
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